7 Sad reasons why people give up on their dreams


Our childhood memories often involve the dreams we wanted to pursue as adults. In your youth the dream seemed achievable and within reach, and it probably is, but with age and life experiences comes a dwindling sense of hope and wonder. Fast forward to years later, you have most likely put that dream behind you and have opted for practicality and security over passion and purpose. While you have an undying desire to go after your dreams, there is always internal and external voices that leave you hesitant to follow through.

Below are seven reasons why people tend to give up on their dreams.

  1. They fear being judged by those they care about

Following your passion later on in life is sure to raise a lot of eyebrows from the people around you. They might find it irrational and even irresponsible to leave your stable job to pursue a lifelong dream. Sensing judgment and pushback from your loved ones for entering a new chapter in your life is sure to leave anyone feeling discouraged.

  1. They give others the power to influence their decisions

Most of our decisions are easily influenced by the people with whom we surround ourselves. Due to the fear of what people might say or think of you, we often make decisions that’ll make our loved ones more accepting and comfortable instead of making decisions that will make us truly happy.

  1. They fail once – and never try again

Failure is an inevitable part of life. As much as we try to avoid it, it still manages to pop up every once in a while, to make us better than before. Many people are left so discouraged, demotivated and even embarrassed by their failures that they choose to let the dream go all together.

  1. They don’t learn how to discipline themselves

Achieving your goals takes a lot of discipline and focus. If you aren’t disciplined throughout your journey of pursuing your dreams, you will easily get side-tracked, making you lose focus of what’s important.

  1. They would rather settle for short-term rewards

The journey to achieving your dreams is sometimes long and tiresome but a combination of consistent work and effort will yield mega results in the future. People are often looking for a quick buck and don’t have the patience to see the seeds of their hard work come to fruition. This leaves them frustrated and demotivated if they don’t see significant results within a short-term period leading them to give up.

  1. They refuse to be flexible and adjust

The journey to your dreams is a winding road full of sharp turns and obstacles. If you want to succeed, then you need to be able to adjust and be flexible to successfully navigate your way around challenges. People who aren’t willing to adopt this approach are less likely to succeed and more likely to give up.

  1. They fear going it alone and having no support

The possibility of not having your loved ones fully support you on your journey is sad and frightening. The pain of feeling alone and not knowing if you are on the right path is enough to push any one into giving up on their dreams.

When you become part of the Soapbox Franchise family you will never feel like you’re going it alone! Soapbox offers support on all fronts. They also give you a tried and tested business model increasing your chance of success, making the road to your dreams less daunting.


Do your clothes control your mind?

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You may think that the Soapbox team has lost its mind, but in our company we believe that clothes control a lot more than they allow us to believe. Oh yes, they could even convince us to behave in a certain way when we put them on. That perfect gym top not only makes you look good but convinces you to choose the treadmill over the couch. The clean cut tailored shirt will show you exactly how to climb the corporate ladder. Your clothes convince you willingly, without being asked, because the ability to convince us is embedded in their thread count.  And we’re not the only ones who believe this.

What are we thinking?

There’s a proven science that teaches us that the clothes we wear will have a direct influence on how we behave. This scientific phenomenon is called “enclothed cognition” or “embodied cognition”. And no, we’re not just making that up. The New York Times science desk published one of many available articles on the topic in April last year and a couple of sentences caught our attention.

Professor Adam Galinsky, who was quoted in the article, explained how we not only think with our brains but we also think with our bodies. He went on to explain that the clothes we wear help to shape the way that we think and behave while we are wearing them.

Apparently the phenomenon doesn’t work when you just look at an item of clothing in a closet or catalogue. You have to wear it, see it on your body and feel it on your skin for it to affect your thinking. Dr Galinsky’s conclusion after many years of research is that clothes invade the body and brain, putting the wearer into a specific psychological state.

How does the theory work in the real world?

As the weather warms up we find ourselves migrating away from winter woollies and triple layers, to t-shirts and strappy tops. As we dig out our summer wear from the bottom of our closets we also dig out the desire to look our best. From the research we’ve seen, we now also know that having the right gym wear can actually give us the attitude boost to get the job done. We believe that our clothes secretly know that the better they make you feel, the more you will choose to show them off. Just think about it. How often does your old worn out varsity sweatshirt make its way to the gym? It knows that it can’t inspire you to hit the gym and so it hides at the bottom of the winter pile. But the new Slazenger number? That’s a different story. The perfect fitting, well engineered gym accessory will whisper sweet inspiration to your mind simply by slipping it on. Clothe the body and you’ll clothe the mind.

How to make it work for your business

The gym is not the only place where we can create a great attitude by wearing great clothing. Can you imagine being able to influence the behaviour of your teams simply by making sure that they look the part? Every business that aims to bring out the best in their teams should consider the influence that the current employee outfits may have on current behaviour.

An employee who feels insignificant can be transformed into a confident member of the team when they have a uniform that they are proud to wear each day. A team that feels distant and disconnected can begin to feel like they belong to a greater purpose when they share a powerful brand image on their corporate wear. Why does this work? It’s an amazing function of the human brain. When you wear it, you feel it, you believe it and your mind automatically wants to achieve it.

How can we help you?

At Soapbox we believe in the power of clothing and we want to help you bring out the best in your teams. You may want to purchase some team motivation in the form of new branded summer wear. Or you may just have a need to replace your gym wear that mysteriously shrunk in the wash. Whatever your goal, we are here for you. We can help you feel and look great when you shed your winter woolies.

Take a look at our range of active wear at www.soapboxpromo.co.za or give us a call on 012 804 0066 to get expert advice and unbeatable service.

As always, we are with you every stitch of the way

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